Posts by Incognigo Montoya

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Advice on Disassociating

by HiddenPimo in

hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.

i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?

i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.

Incognigo Montoya

3rd Gen. Wise words and a wise decision. You lived the point I was making. Good to hear you took time to make the right choice for yourself.

Dubstepped- I never said your decision was easy, or that I know all the factors in your decision, but step back and look at it objectively; making the decision to sever ties permanently, from a disfunctional family, is not the same as severing ties with family who are loving and close. You have a completely different mindset when you're dealing with family you have a love/hate relationship with, than with family you love dearly.

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Advice on Disassociating

by HiddenPimo in

hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.

i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?

i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.

Incognigo Montoya

Dubstepped, I am a fader, and I support his, or anyones choice to DA. No offence, but the only one coming off as butt hurt here, is you. We all know, at least those of us who've listened to your podcast and personal story (yours and your wifes) that you DA, and that was what was best for you both. But you both had disfunctional families. DA didn't cause you to lose anything you weren't prepared to lose. Some of us don't have disfunctional families. Don't wish to risk losing our families, but dont wish to be part of the organization any longer. Again, no offence, but have kids, raise them in the religion, then decide to leave, and tell me how you feel about disassociating, or what if your wife chose to stay in? Would you still have DA? Things become extremely complicated when something you can't bear to lose, becomes a factor, and there's a probable chance you will lose them. I simply wish to caution a person to think long and hard on who they stand to lose when they make that choice. Can they bear that burden? If so, or if they don't have anyone, then go for it! I imagine it's a great freedom.

Everyone's situation is different. Unfortunately, we were all a part of this organization. We decided to leave. It's not an easy thing to do. The DA option can sound appealing, especially when the feelings from just coming out are raw, and you are angry, finished. But having the foresight, knowing what the repercussions are, down the road, may not be clear at that time. Because DA is so final, taking some time to consider the consequences is advisable. It seems some here are speaking on that, from experience. No one should be ridiculed or berated for their choice, be it, fade, pimo, or disassociating. We all have our reasons. Be supportive.

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Persecuted for God's Name or Social Retards?

by Sea Breeze in

jw
friends

i was on my cell phone this morning while pumping gas.

i was having an intense conversation trying to resolve a potential business logistics problem that could affect a lot of people.

time was of the essence.

Incognigo Montoya

Cell phone use at a gas pump will not ignite fumes. It is a myth, busted by the infamous mythbusters. Yet, the ignorant fools among us continue to perpetuate it as fact...

Anyway, yes, the persecution complex is great among all witnesses. Any resistance is pressure from satan and intolerance is persecution, regardless of the offensive or invasive tactics practiced by the jw. You obviously weren't humble enough to take a moment, excuse yourself from your phone call, listen to the important message she had to give you, and take her tract. You are unworthy. But then you had the arrogance to brush her off and shew her away. How discouraging it was for her. Undoubtedly satan trying to keep her down.

I know you stated that your phone call was urgent business, but would it be any different if you were just having a casual conversation with a friend? Interrupting a phone call for any reason, other than emergency, is just rude, in my book. What if she was tied into the meeting, via phone, while pumping gas, and you came over, dressed in a chicken suit, trying to give her coupons and tell her about the great deals for a limited time, at the local deli? I'm sure she'd think that was persecution. Satan, dressed up in a chicken suit, trying to distract her from the meetings...

but man, crispy chicken strips sound good!😋

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Advice on Disassociating

by HiddenPimo in

hello my exjw/pimo/pomo friends,.

i am working on penning my da letter and wondered if i should use it as a tool to maybe wake up individuals as the boe will have to read it.. anyone have any advice on what i should say versus what i should leave out?

i am not going to fade as my family can either be loyal to blood or loyal to a man made religion.

Incognigo Montoya

It would seem that the ultimate issue is family. How you view your family. Those that care about their family, and wish to maintain a relationship with them, giving the family an excusable way to maintain contact with them, your best option is to fade. As stated by the many posts on this thread, there are a lot of drawbacks to fading, but it's your best chance of maintaining contact with family.

On the other hand, those who have disassociated seem to have had a disfunctional, if not poisonous, relationship with their families. So disassociating wasn't as big of a deal for them, perhaps a relief, in as much as it serves as a barrier, keeping a toxic family relationship at bay, severing ties with those they no longer want in their life.

OP, you've stated that you couldn't care less about your family, even your marriage. If, after careful consideration this is truly how you feel, then Disassociating sounds like your best choice. Just remember, once that bridge is burned, there's no going back. Be sure that later on in life, you aren't going to look back and miss having contact with anyone. If you had children, I would be very concerned, and caution you to rethink your decision. You can walk away from a marriage, even parents, and be perfectly content not speaking or maintaining a relationship, for the rest of your life. But children... at some point or another, a parent is going to regret severing contact, or disabling their relationship with their child.

I like the idea of sending individual letters to members of the congregation, outlining your thoughts and reasons for leaving. Citing specific instances of hypocrisy and dishonesty by the organization and its leaders, may open some eyes. Try to keep it as brief and to the point as possible, not overstating or repeating yourself. And finally sending your DA letter to the elders, to be recieved a few days after your letters to the congregation arrive. Then you're finished. All done, forever. Good luck to you. Please let us know how it goes!

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"daylight saving"

by zeb in

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friends

anyone had any dealings with this?.

i had an abc journalist ask me hm hours difference is there between perth and sydney then?

i kid you not.... australia normally has two hours difference one side to the other.

Incognigo Montoya

It's not the time zones, it's that they change twice a year. Add to that, at least one state that doesn't change, and it can suddenly become confusing. DST is antiquated and just needs to be done away with.

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memorial-

by zeb in

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friends

a criticism of the wt way is the practice of using 50 words when 10 would do.

this is an example of an aged speaking style practised in the 1930s 1950's.

just look at movies from that era, political speeches etc.

Incognigo Montoya

As a general rule, almost every talk at every meeting, and every prayer is this way, although some speakers are definitely worse than others.(every once in a while, you get a great speaker that's easy and enjoyable to listen to) The exception being the bible reading at the theocratic ministry school (and what is up with that?! Just read the verses, no review of what's read or summary from the speaker. Don't learn how to engage your audience, just read...?)

Obviously they have a timeslot to fill, and you can only talk so long about a subject until it starts to become repetitive and dissected to death. This has always been one of my issues with the religion. It's so freaking repetitive! I mean, if you eat at a restaurant 3 times a week, every month, for a year, and they only serve 8 different dishes, and every once in a while, the cook does an amazing job preparing the meal, but the majority of the time, the meals are bland, and you can't leave until you clean your plate, after which you have to hear a long drawn out explanation from the owner about how great his food is, and how thankful he is for his restaurant, staff, food, patrons, liscensing, health inspectors, FDA, food truck delivery, table cloths, silverware, napkins, grandma for the recipes, the building, the heat, the A/C, and on and on... And finally, when he's finished, you've got to navigate a sea of other patrons who want to converse about how great their meal was. I bet you don't eat there often, if ever again...

It gets old and repetitive. I'll never forget, after being gone for over 12 years, with the exception of some minor "new light", it was like I never left. The same exact meals being served. Yes its dressed up in a bit fancier packaging, with the new songs, flat screens, video presentations, and of course, JW.org, but it's the same meal, regurgitated. And when you finally peek behind the curtain and see how dirty the kitchen is, you realize why you should never go again, relieved to be free to choose for yourself.

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Almost perfect!

by The Fall Guy in

after a cruise-ship suffers a terrible shipwreck, the famous beauty and actress scarlett johansson finds herself alone on a deserted island.

hours pass, and eventually only one other person makes it to the island to join her - a man.. they didn't know each other before the shipwreck, but he of course knew of her due to her beauty & fame.. at the beginning it was hard, but as time passed, this guy learned how to provide food and shelter and started taking care of her.

she took care of him in return, and eventually she started to really feel a bond with the guy.

Incognigo Montoya

...um every guy has his preferences, Scarlett, for most is a beauty, but tastes vary. Plug your own preferred famous beauty into the joke and go...

Salma Hayek for me! 😁

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Should illegal immigrants be sent “Only” to Sanctuary Cities?

by I believe in overlapping in

pro-illegal immigration advocates are fighting president trump’s efforts to keep illegal immigrants out of the united states.

trump wants immigrants to enter the usa legally and in a controlled manner so as not to tax the local economies of their resources that will burden the local law abiding citizens.

“pro illegal immigrant’s advocates insist that illegal immigrants are overwhelmingly good people fleeing bad circumstances in poverty-stricken, gang-ridden or war-torn countries.

Incognigo Montoya

Loveuni, yes, they should be deported. That's what common sense tells us to do, unfortunately not everyone possesses common sense...

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What's the point?

by Incognigo Montoya in

jw
friends

it has always baffled me, if earth and it's inhabitants, are god's sole sentient creation (aside from the angel's and demons) along with the animal life, why create such a vast galaxy, along with billions of other galaxies, with their trillions of stars and planets, etc.

what's the point?

our galaxy surely would've been enough, in a great void of blackness.

Incognigo Montoya

For the record, I am agnostic, at least for the moment. Primarily because I just dont have the time, or feel an overwhelming need to dive into whether god exists or not. I am aware of arguments for both sides. I spent my youth, in fact the majority of my life, believing in a creator, only to have recently discovered that the religion I was raised in, is a sham.(as have you all, here) So now I question everything. At some point I will do my own research and come to my own conclusions. My initial question was somewhat a rhetorical one, though I was interested in everyone's thoughts. I just remember, even as a child, and a believer, pondering my initial question and subsequent thoughts; What is the point of god creating all of those galaxies, if there is no other life but ours? The probability that there is more life out there is problematic to Christianity.. it is a conundrum of sorts.

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What's the point?

by Incognigo Montoya in

jw
friends

it has always baffled me, if earth and it's inhabitants, are god's sole sentient creation (aside from the angel's and demons) along with the animal life, why create such a vast galaxy, along with billions of other galaxies, with their trillions of stars and planets, etc.

what's the point?

our galaxy surely would've been enough, in a great void of blackness.

Incognigo Montoya

Exactly, eyeuse!